Tuesday, March 23, 2021

It has been a long time . . .

 Wow, it is exactly two years since I was last here. Life gets really crazy sometimes!

Here is the short version - I will be blogging again sometime in the near future. I have not abandoned the doll world. In fact, I have bought a few more dolls and dollhouses over the past two years and have many stories to tell when I get the time. I think about my dolls every day and am looking forward to writing my blog again. (You may stop reading here now as I am going to go into the boring details of the last two years....)

At the beginning of 2019, my husband was diagnosed with scleroderma/ systemic sclerosis. This is a stupid disease that has turned our world upside down. The doctor bluntly told him that he had about a year to live due to his clinical manifestations, but I am happy to say that two years later, my husband is still with us!

After the initial diagnosis, my husband began to deteriorate quickly and spent the next three months in hospital. He came home for two months and did intensive physical and occupational therapy four days a week. However, the therapies had to be stopped as it was causing the disease to progress much faster and he completely lost the use of his body. We now have 'quadriplegia' added to his list of diagnoses.

In early August, my husband lost the ability to swallow and was rushed back to hospital. He had a feeding tube placed into his stomach and receives all nutrition, medications, and liquids through this tube. He also requires constant suctioning due to the inability to swallow. He remained in hospital for another six months, eventually coming home in January 2020 to do palliative care at home.

The doctors decided to try chemotherapy to see if we could halt the disease progression. My husband had his first round of chemotherapy in hospital in February. He was supposed to have chemo once a month for the next five months, however COVID-19 struck the world, and the doctors did not want to strip him of his immune system completely during a pandemic.

In October his gallbladder burst sending him back to the hospital for a few weeks. 

January 2021, he lost blood flow to his feet and was hospitalized again, and in February he was back in hospital for another two weeks.

So far there have been no hospitalizations in March, so we are doing well despite living with this relentless disease. He still requires full nursing care (provided by me and my kids) for everyday living, as well as two people to transfer him from bed to wheelchair. My kids have been really great assistants helping their dad with nursing care as well. The thing I find hardest of all is that he needs to be physically turned over every three hours during the night to prevent bedsores. It took me quite a while to get used to this routine, but I now can get up numerous times a night to care for him.

Anyway, I am looking forward to blogging again sometime soon. 

Cheerio, Sam

8 comments:

  1. Dear Sam - It is lovely to see you back again and my heart is broken to hear of all that you and your husband have endured this past two years. I can't imagine how shocking the diagnoses must have been, and the immense changes that life has forced upon you. I pray that you have help and support and that as a family, you've had the opportunity to store up many treasured memories. It is good to know you'll be making time to play and posting again. We all need to fill our tanks up with good things, especially when life demands so much from us. Big hugs and perpetual prayers coming you way!

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  2. So glad to hear from you Sam, and so sorry regarding the reasons for your absence. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

    Sending you virtual hugs!

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  3. God bless you, your husband and your family. You have certainly been through a tremendously challenging time. It doesn't help that this is all going on during a time when others who might be able to help out are not allowed to because of covid-19 restrictions. I hope things improve in that area soon so others can help take some of your load. Big hugs. - Marilyn D.

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  4. Sam, I was wondering about you the other day. I am so sorry to hear about the tragic circumstances you and your family are going through, but most of all the illness of your husband. My husband went through a series of illnesses in 2019 resulting cancer and sepsis infection so I am in complete empathy with you as a constant caregiver. My heart, and prayers are with you and your family. God bless you and keep you. Lisa

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  5. My happiness about finding a new post from you vanished away after reading your "report" about your last two years... I'm very sorry for all the sad and frightening things you and your family had to cope with. And of course corona made a very bad situation even worse... My best wishes for your husband's health and I'm also wishing loads of strength to you and your children.

    Hugs
    Birgit

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  6. Dear Sam
    It is lovely to hear your voice!
    I'm incredibly upset to hear your news. How sad, disruptive, unfair. Right now you need to save your energy to look after your family, and don't forget to look after yourself too. I'm sending lots of good wishes your way. Do send us an update when you have time, even though we are far apart, in our hearts we are here for you!

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  7. Hi Sam!
    I was so happy you contacted me I rushed over to read your blog and am saddened to read the reason for your long absence. You and your family have certainly been through a great deal over the past two years and I can only imagine how stressful life has been. My thoughts are with you and I hope you all find the strength to continue the fight for your husband's health.
    Sending you the biggest hugs,
    X

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  8. Sorry to hear about the tough time you and your husband are going through, life really does hit us hard sometimes doesn't it? Despite this hardship, it is good to hear the positivity in your post, as hard as it must be. Wishing you both all the best.

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